I do have quite an opinion on this one. Not just because it’s quite an exposure what this couple has had in the media, but also because one of my best friends was a victim -though in a more mildly way- of a woman going beserk during their seperation.
Woody Allen is one of the most successfull storytellers of Hollywood. Big stars want to work with him, think his work is amazing, a piece of art and him an artist, most people rave on about it. There is, in short, recognition of the quality of his profession.
I’ve been watching some of his films. Annie Hall being one of them and the most recent to that (thank you, Netflix!). To be fair I wasn’t too impressed by that one. It happens, you don’t need to be a fan like everyone else is, right? Especially the characters Allen plays in his own films I really dislike. He is always such an a*hole. Again, MY opinion.
Also, I have read some of the stories that emerged about him during the years. Not too much -I haven’t been that interested- but I did read how Mia Farrow wrote an eight page epistel of how he did her and her children wrong in Variety magazine (or was it a different one?). Her eight page rant struck a chord with me. ‘Wow’, I thought, ‘her logic really doesn’t make ANY sense to me?!’
I also read how Dylan complained to big stars such as Meryl Streep etc, asking them how they could have turned a blind eye to what Woody did to her? I can imagine a child -who is, agewise, no longer a child- feels like such indeed, when they notice that their story has not been responded to by these highly acclaimed people.
If I’m honest: it’s tricky business.
When two people love each other, they will try everything in their power to be together as much as possible. They get married (for instance), or move in together, have children, or dogs or other types of pets, that sort of things really. They try to have things that bind them together. Things that are beings (children and/or pets) or actual things such as art, clothes, you name it. Collectables.
If things go wrong, however, it can take very nasty turns. Especially with children involved. Mothers are known to be lions when it comes to their children. They will do anything to protect their cubs from evil doërs. And let’s be honest: so they should. This is what mothers are for. Fathers too, by the way. In general, being a parent entails protecting your children. Or at least wanting to, even if it’s not really possible.
This is where parents can hit a tricky point. Having to recognise ones own mistakes and keeping things amicably on behalf of the children during a divorce/seperation, is one of those challenges. Some people succeed in this mission, keeping the children as a shield in front of their own emotions. A very wise thing to do, because lots of things will turn out for the best interests of those said children if they do.
Some people fail greatly at this, with the possibility of breaking the bond that is woven between the children. I know of a woman who told her children that whoever was on the side of their father, could never be a friend of herself again. Which isn’t exactly a rare story to be fair.
Where two people fight, there’s two people at fault, is my opinion. When there’s a divorce or a split up, this is no different.
After reading Mia Farrow’s report on what had happened during her time with Woody Allen, I was quite surprised.
For I read that there was an “unwritten rule” in their household that Woody should never be alone with Dylan.
Dylan, an adoptive daughter. Not just that, the adoption wasn’t finalized yet when these things occurred. So I do ask myself: why would a mother ask a judge to let a man she doesn’t even trust to be alone with this child, to be the father of this child by law? Why would you do that? If you don’t trust him, why not adopt her on your own and make bloody sure that Woody Allen gets filed for some sort of report?
Because she didn’t do this. This is the weakest point in her entire raving about him being evil. Always has been. Reading about one of their children stating there was never any wrongdoing by Woody Allen, makes my believe in this stronger.
Mia did seem to fill Dylan’s head with allegations against her father, about him being evil. I have no idea if any of it is true.
I honestly don’t know.
I do know there have been therapies that to recall events that never occurred. Scary.
Woody Allen has, since then, gotten a famous relationship with Soon Yi. We all saw what happened there. With her, he also adopted two children.
I can’t believe a judge would allow someone to adopt children if there was a serious suspicion of them abusing children in the past?
The whole case does make it impossible for Woody Allen to comment on the Weinstein issue, I’ve noticed. Even though things weren’t necessarily proved or unproved in his (Allens’) case, he did flirt with disaster and that doesn’t give him a strong ‘innocent’ side, I’ve noticed. I agree with him that it’s hard to get away from even the suspicion of abusement, even if you haven’t done anything. The point he is making is valid, as I just said: I don’t know who to believe: Farrow or Allen.
Dylan is quite a different story. She is a victim, in whatever way you point it. Either because she has been fed false info as a child (this is beyond wrong) or because she has had to endure/experience things she should never have experienced in the first place (this would be extremely sick to do to a child).
Let’s hope that some day one of her parents decides to tell the actual true and tell her ‘Sorry Dylan, I’ve been most unkind to you and your childhood and I will regret doing that for the rest of my life’, and for Dylan to reply by: ‘well, what the hell took you so long?!’
And for those still in doubt, here is one of their own children’s piece of mind about it: